Embark on a journey of self-discovery through this thoughtful self-assessment, inspired by Christian values. As followers of Christ, we are called to embody virtues that reflect His teachings. This assessment delves into the profound concept of forgiveness, a cornerstone of Christian faith. Reflect on your responses to a series of questions, each designed to help you gauge your approach to forgiveness in various situations. At the end, you’ll receive insights into your forgiveness mindset, shedding light on how closely your actions align with the grace and mercy that Christ exemplified. May this assessment serve as a tool for personal growth and a deeper understanding of forgiveness, a virtue that resonates with the heart of Christianity.
Instructions:
Approach with Openness: Approach this self-assessment with an open heart and mind, reflecting on your thoughts and actions related to forgiveness.
One Question at a Time: Carefully read each question and the provided multiple-choice options. Avoid picking at answers before reading all the options for a question.
Honest Self-Reflection: Respond honestly based on how you truly feel and act in different situations. There are no right or wrong answers; the goal is self-awareness.
Scoring Guidelines: After answering all questions, remember not to calculate scores until you’ve completed the entire assessment. Follow the provided scoring guidelines at the bottom of this page to calculate your final score.
Personal Growth: Remember that this assessment is a tool for personal growth and reflection. Embrace the opportunity to explore forgiveness through the lens of your Christian faith.
1. When someone apologizes to me, I tend to:
a) Hold onto the offense, even if I accept the apology.
b) Forgive, but remain cautious around them.
c) Fully accept the apology and let go of resentment.
d) Say I forgive, but secretly bear a grudge.
2. How often do I bring up past wrongs during disagreements?
a) Frequently, as a way to defend myself.
b) Occasionally, but I try to avoid it.
c) Rarely, I prefer to focus on the present.
d) Always, I can’t help but mention them.
3. If someone continues to hurt me, I am more likely to:
a) Cut them out of my life completely.
b) Set boundaries while giving them another chance.
c) Continue forgiving them, hoping for change.
d) Forgive outwardly, but remain distant.
4. How easy is it for me to let go of grudges?
a) Very difficult, I tend to hold onto them.
b) Somewhat challenging, but I eventually move on.
c) Fairly easy, I believe in forgiving and forgetting.
d) Extremely easy, I don’t hold grudges at all.
5. When I forgive, I usually:
a) Still feel hurt by the offense.
b) Feel relieved, but it takes time.
c) Feel a sense of liberation and healing.
d) Suppress my feelings and act like it’s fine.
6. If someone wrongs me repeatedly, I am more likely to:
a) Avoid them altogether.
b) Offer forgiveness, but with caution.
c) Keep forgiving without holding grudges.
d) Pretend to forgive, but harbor resentment.
7. How often do I think about seeking revenge?
a) Often, I want them to feel what I felt.
b) Occasionally, but I don’t act on it.
c) Rarely, forgiveness is more important.
d) Always, I can’t let go of the idea.
8. How do I feel when I see the person who wronged me?
a) Angry and resentful.
b) Cautious, but not overly emotional.
c) Neutral or even compassionate.
d) Anxious or uncomfortable.
9. How often do I apologize to others when I’ve wronged them?
a) Rarely, I find it hard to admit my mistakes.
b) Sometimes, if I know I’ve hurt them.
c) Often, I believe in taking responsibility.
d) Never, I don’t think I’m in the wrong.
10. Overall, my attitude towards forgiveness is:
a) Resistant, I find it challenging to forgive.
b) Willing, but it takes effort on my part.
c) Embracing, I believe in the power of forgiveness.
d) Indifferent, I don’t think much about it.
Do not peak at the results until you have answered all of the questions above. Then click on the “Score Results” Tab.
Add up your score for each answer.
1. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
2. a = 3; b = 2; c = 4; d = 1
3. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
4. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
5. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
6. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
7. a = 3; b = 2; c = 4; d = 1
8. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
9. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
10. a = 1; b = 2; c = 4; d = 3
After you Tally your total score, click on the Result Description Tab.
10-18: Limited Forgiveness
Forgiveness may not come easily to you. You might find it challenging to let go of grudges and hurt feelings.
Meditate on: “But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” – Matthew 6:15
19-26: Developing Forgiveness
You have a balanced approach to forgiveness. While you’re open to forgiving, it might take time and effort for you to fully heal.
Meditate on: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” – Colossians 3:13
27-34: Embracing Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a central aspect of your mindset. You believe in its transformative power and actively practice it.
Meditate on: “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” – Mark 11:25
35-40: Abundant Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a core value for you. You readily let go of past hurts and embrace a compassionate and forgiving attitude.
Meditate on: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
